My Journey into Permanent Jewelry: From Removable to Irrevocable
As a start to a unique topic, I’d like to share my personal journey with permanent jewelry, particularly collars, bracelets, and anklets made from stainless steel or titanium. I’m not referring to the delicate chains often soldered to wrists or ankles but rather the bold, heavy pieces that can only be removed with heavy-duty tools—if at all. My journey with these adornments has been one of exploration, commitment, and, at times, anxiety as I ventured from removable jewelry to truly permanent pieces that define my style today.I began looking for masculine pieces of jewelry—something bold that didn’t fit the mainstream, dainty options available. I didn’t want anything that labeled me as part of the BDSM scene, but I found myself stuck with options geared toward that community. That’s when I turned to an old friend, Pat Pruitt, a jeweler who specializes in stainless steel. He had crafted an anklet out of rebar, with individual links welded closed, and I asked him to make me one. The chain he crafted was 10 inches long and about 10mm thick, with a rustic finish that had a true industrial feel. At first, I had him add a carabiner clasp so it wasn’t permanent, but I knew deep down that permanence was what I was after.Before Pat's piece, I had worn paracord or hemp ankle bracelets—nothing that drew much attention. When I received Pat’s custom anklet, I loved how it looked but soon realized the clasp was unreliable. I came close to losing the piece while I slept. That’s when I began considering making it permanent. After some reflection, I had Pat weld it closed. It’s been over seven years now, and I still wear that welded rebar chain on my left ankle.However, wearing permanent jewelry wasn’t without challenges. Ski boots became an issue, as the tight fit caused discomfort with the anklet. Still, I found ways to make it work, and I was sold on the idea of permanence. I eventually added an oval ankle bracelet from Eternity Collars on my right foot. It had a screw closure but felt too small and delicate. I eventually replaced it with a custom piece from Pat that fit better, and my journey with permanent jewelry deepened.Over time, I found myself wanting more. I began searching for more permanent anklets and bracelets, but the mass-produced items didn’t fit my aesthetic—nor did the dainty chains I encountered. After more searching, I found a Chinese manufacturer on Taobao who could make hardened titanium anklets to my exact measurements. These pieces were different from anything I’d worn before—sturdy, unremovable, and bold. They came with a locking mechanism so permanent that once it clicked into place, the anklet couldn’t be removed without destroying it. The idea of wearing something I couldn’t remove, something that would be part of me forever, was thrilling but nerve-wracking.The transition from removable jewelry to weaker permanent anklets and now to these larger, bolder pieces has been a defining part of my journey. I wear two permanent titanium anklets and one permanent bracelet on my left hand. I’m currently waiting for my right-hand bracelet to arrive, and once it’s locked on, my collection will finally be complete.Despite this satisfaction, wearing permanent jewelry in public and around friends and family brings a unique challenge. There’s an undeniable sense of anxiety—a feeling of what I call “social death”—that comes with realizing these pieces can’t come off, and everyone knows it. The permanence makes you stand out, and for a man, this can carry a particular stigma. Men wearing bold jewelry is still subject to social judgment, and I often worry about how people perceive me. It’s hard for others to understand what true permanence means when your anklets and bracelets are locked on your body, never to be removed. This can create a mental battle, one I’ve had to overcome by embracing who I am and realizing that my adornments reflect my personal journey and strength.Through this process, I’ve been fortunate to have the support of an amazing partner in the owner of Titanium Hibiscus Permanent Bracelet Piercing on Taobao. Their craftsmanship and guidance have been invaluable, from providing regular updates to explaining how the jewelry is made permanent. Their work has helped me fully appreciate what true permanence is—knowing these pieces will never come off, no matter what. The anxiety is real, but with their help, I’ve learned to accept and embrace the weight of my decision.Since I locked on the first permanent hardened titanium anklet, to adding the other one, the first permanent bracelet, and awaiting the other, I have felt an extreme sense of energy and excitement. It’s hard not to constantly look at them. The constant feel when you walk or work out is truly unique and thrilling. It becomes exciting, addicting, and anxiety-inducing all at the same time. I experienced fear and extreme anxiety when I was about to lock the jewelry onto my body. I set the bracelet on my wrist or foot and then took the locking piece, with its dead locking spring pins, and slid it into the grooves of the C-shape. Both spring pins were loaded and depressed, but the locking piece was not yet inserted all the way where they would lock in place at the midpoint. I was shaking so badly and wondering if I should stop, fearing I might regret the decision in the long run.The bracelet was ready to be closed, but I struggled with completing the task. I debated retracting. Finally, I took a deep breath, feeling scared and worried, and pushed down. The spring-loaded pins snapped into place. That was it—the jewelry was now locked, unable to be removed. I felt a wave of relief and slight dizziness, with endorphins and adrenaline flooding my system all at once.For anyone considering permanent jewelry, my advice is to reflect on what it means to you. It’s a big decision, and the commitment is real. But if you’re like me, once you lock that last piece on, you’ll feel a sense of satisfaction that’s unlike anything else.
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作为独特话题的开端，我想分享我个人与永久珠宝的旅程，特别是由不锈钢或钛制成的项圈、手镯和脚镯。我所说的并非那些常焊接在手腕或脚踝上的精致链条，而是那些只能用重型工具才能取下——如果还能取下的话——的大胆、沉重的珠宝。我与这些装饰品的旅程充满了探索、承诺，有时还有焦虑，因为我从可拆卸的珠宝转向了真正永久的作品，这些作品定义了我今天的风格。
我开始寻找男性化的珠宝——一些大胆的，不符合主流的精致选项。我不想要任何让我被贴上BDSM场景标签的东西，但我发现自己陷入了针对那个社区的选择中。就在那时，我转向了一个老朋友，Pat Pruitt，他是一位专门研究不锈钢的珠宝商。他曾用钢筋制作了一个脚镯，每个链环都焊接封闭，我请他为我做一个。他制作的链条长10英寸，大约10毫米厚，带有一种带有真正工业感的粗糙表面。起初，我让他加上一个卡宾扣钩，这样它就不是永久性的，但我知道 deep down（内心深处）我追求的是永久性。
在Pat的作品之前，我戴过伞绳或麻质脚镯——没有什么引人注目的。当我收到Pat定制的脚镯时，我喜欢它的外观，但很快就意识到扣钩不可靠。我睡觉时差点弄丢了这个脚镯。那时我开始考虑将其永久化。经过一番思考，我让Pat将其焊接封闭。现在已经过去七年多了，我仍然在我左脚踝上戴着那个焊接的钢筋链条。
然而，佩戴永久珠宝并非没有挑战。滑雪靴成了一个问题，因为紧身的靴子与脚镯搭配时会造成不适。尽管如此，我还是找到了让它发挥作用的方法，并且我对永久性的想法感到满意。我最终在我的右脚踝上增加了一个来自Eternity Collars的椭圆形脚镯。它有一个螺丝扣，但感觉太小太精致。我最终用Pat定制的更适合我的作品替换了它，我与永久珠宝的旅程加深了。
随着时间的推移，我发现自己想要更多。我开始寻找更多的永久脚镯和手镯，但那些大批量生产的商品不符合我的审美——那些我遇到的精致链条也不行。经过更多的搜索，我找到了一个能按照我的确切尺寸制作硬化钛脚镯的中国制造商。这些作品与我以前穿过的任何东西都不同——坚固、不可拆卸、大胆。它们配有锁定机制，一旦扣上，脚镯就无法在不破坏它的情况下取下。穿着无法取下的东西，穿着将成为我永远的一部分，这个想法既令人兴奋又令人紧张。
从可拆卸珠宝到较弱的永久脚镯，再到现在更大胆的作品，这是我旅程的一个决定性部分。我戴着两个永久钛脚镯和一只左手的永久手镯。我目前正在等待我的右手手镯的到来，一旦它被锁上，我的收藏将最终完成。
尽管如此，戴着永久珠宝在公共场合以及朋友和家人面前带来了一种独特的挑战。有一种不可否认的焦虑感——一种我称之为“社会死亡”的感觉——来自于意识到这些珠宝无法取下，而且每个人都知道这一点。这种永久性让你脱颖而出，对于一个男性来说，这可能带有特定的污名。男性佩戴大胆的珠宝仍然受到社会评判，我经常担心人们如何看待我。当你的脚镯和手镯锁在你的身体上，永远无法取下时，其他人很难理解真正的永久性意味着什么。这可能会造成一种心理上的斗争，我不得不通过接受自己并意识到我的装饰品反映了我个人的旅程和力量来克服它。
在这个过程中，我有幸得到了淘宝上钛hibiscus永久手镯穿刺店主的全力支持。他们的工艺和指导非常宝贵，从提供定期更新到解释珠宝是如何永久化的。他们的工作帮助我完全理解了真正的永久性是什么——知道这些珠宝将永远无法取下，无论发生什么。焦虑是真实的，但在他们的帮助下，我学会了接受和拥抱我决定的重量。
自从我锁上第一个永久硬化钛脚镯，加上另一个，第一个永久手镯，并等待另一个，我感到一种极端的能量和兴奋。很难不经常看他们。当你走路或锻炼时的持续感觉是真正独特和刺激的。它变得兴奋、上瘾和焦虑同时发生。我在即将将珠宝锁在身上时经历了恐惧和极度焦虑。我把手镯放在手腕或脚上，然后拿起带有死锁弹簧销的锁定件，并将其滑入C形槽中。两个弹簧销都已装填并压下，但锁定件尚未完全插入到它们将在中点锁定的地方。我抖得厉害，怀疑是否应该停下来，担心我可能会长期后悔这个决定。
手镯已经准备好关闭，但我挣扎着完成这个任务。我辩论撤退。最后，我深吸一口气，感到害怕和担心，并按下。弹簧加载的销子咔嚓一声就位。就是这样——珠宝
非常感谢你的分享，作为外国人可以在这个平台和大家分享，也非常不容易，佩服你坚毅的勇气 你的永久脚镯经历真的很独特和大胆，能够坚持自己的风格并克服社会偏见，需要很大的勇气和自信，何况你在美国，应该会比我们有更多的包容 很棒的故事！ 勇气可嘉！ 听起来你的珠宝不仅仅是装饰品，它们更像是你个人身份和经历的象征。这种形式的自我表达真的很酷。 我可以想象，决定佩戴永久脚镯一定是一个重大的决定，当时的心里一定非常纠结，也看过你的每一个帖子，好在现在有了自己喜欢的脚镯，恭喜你，获得了最爱的饰品！ 你的永久手镯和脚镯真的非常酷，虽然我现在长期戴着永久脚镯，但我还是不敢尝试你佩戴的那种夸张大胆的永久款式，或许精美小巧一点的脚镯更适合我吧，它已经完全融入到我的生活当中了。 With shoes
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